The water comes from a drip. A constant source. When you don’t add a cup of water to the fern each day, it accumulates in your bucket.
Then you carry the bucket. And it gets heavy. And you blame the fern for not growing.
When the bucket gets too heavy, you dump it on the fern.
You feel relief, but the fern is damaged and still doesn’t grow.
Of course I’m talking about your relationships, your job, your goals…
Keep your bucket light and you’ll both grow.